One of the things we all do, which completely complicates life, is to take things personally. Whether it’s in business, in personal relationships, or in life, we just can’t seem to help ourselves, and it turns out badly nearly every single time.
The truth is, that most of the time, far from being out to hurt anyone, others aren’t giving anyone else a second thought. The truth is, that most of the time, others are just trying to live their own lives and find their own happiness, to the best of their ability. The truth is, that most of the time, what we mistake for a personal affront is someone else defending a vulnerability of their own. The truth is, that most of the time, others would be horrified to know that we had taken their actions personally in the first place. The truth is, that most of the time, it isn’t personal at all, it’s simply life.
So why do we do it? Why do we look at things through our own lens, and apply it to the way others behave? Why would we expect someone else to live their life for us, when we shouldn’t be living our life for anyone else? Why would we choose to believe anything not based on fact, which then causes us to act in a defensive, inelegant and unhappy way ourselves? Why can’t we remember how lovely our own life, career and relationships are when we live with more trust and inner calm? And even if something is said or done with malice…why would we then exacerbate the issue by turning control of our esteem over to someone that doesn’t have our best interests at heart? No, it’s far simpler to just assume that it isn’t personal, it’s life, and then get on with it.